Archive for May, 2009

And the Don’t Ask Don’t Tell rolled on

Friday, May 29th, 2009

The winner of nine air medals for distinguished service in flight, including one for heroism the night U.S. forces captured Baghdad International Airport in 2003, Fehrenbach is in the process of getting kicked out of the military a year after an acquaintance told his bosses he was gay. [...] Obama “was someone who had experienced discrimination firsthand and that’s why I had a lot of faith,” Fehrenbach said. “I thought, OK I can fight this, and maybe by January Obama could be inaugurated and this won’t matter. That hasn’t happened.”

The Servicemembers Legal Defense Network, an advocacy group seeking equal treatment of gays in the military, estimates that more than 200 service members have been discharged under “don’t ask, don’t tell” since Obama was sworn into office. [...] Most of the estimated 13,000 service members discharged under “don’t ask, don’t tell” since the law was enacted in 1993 have opted to leave quietly and close the final chapter of their military careers in private. Groups calling for the repeal of the ban, however, say Fehrenbach is among a growing number who are going public with a newfound sense of urgency.

In September, Fehrenbach had decided to accept an honorable discharge and waive his right to a military hearing, where he would have to lie about being gay in order to stay in the Air Force. He refused. [...]

“I will fight this in uniform and I’ll fight it without,” Fehrenbach said. “I swore an oath to defend and support the Constitution, I’m going to speak out and fight this until the law is repealed because it is not constitutional.”

He said “don’t ask, don’t tell” denies American service members their constitutional right to privacy, due process and equal protection, and forces them to lie about who they are when honesty is part of the code they serve under. [...]

Obama’s top advisers want the president to move more slowly in overturning the policy than many gay-rights activists would like, citing other priorities including the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan. “We have a lot on our plate right now,” retired Marine Gen. James Jones, the White House’s national security adviser, said this month.

On the other side of the debate, the Michigan-based Center for Military Readiness gathered signatures earlier this year from more than 1,000 retired military officers urging the president and Congress to keep the ban. “It’s really not fair to the women and men of our armed forces to be part of this social experiment,” said center president Elaine Donnelly. “Military life is difficult enough without having this additional burden. This is harmful to good order and discipline and morale.”

Personally I couldn’t care less — the only interest I have in army related matters are certain movies I have, ahem, accidentally downloaded from torrent sites — but I applaud people like Lt. Col. Fehrenbach for no longer going away quietly. This is the only way to get DADT repelled, I believe — not voting for Obama, Clinton or McCain and hoping miracles will happen but actually showing America the people they lose. Translators from Arabic? Winners of medals for outstanding service? Who cares? They’re FAGS. What Ms. Donnelly doesn’t seem to realise is that — as the case of Victor Fehrenbach proves — gays ARE in the army. The fact that she can’t see them doesn’t mean they don’t exist. For 18 years Victor Fehrenbach kept his private life private; his straight colleagues didn’t have to do anything such. Now he is being fired — not for molesting anyone, for destroying the morals that Ms. Donnelly cares so much about, but for the simple fact of having been outed by someone. 18 years of service? Who gives a fuck. We have discipline and morale to protect! (And many more gay soldiers and officers to hurt by not allowing them to live in the open.)

I never expected Obama to do wonders. There are voices already saying “we shouldn’t have voted for him”, which strike me as idiotic — as if McCain would have done much more. Perhaps Clinton would have. We don’t know that. But while the wait continues and White House “has other things on its plate”, the White House spokesman continues to not ask and not tell much about the policy and plans regarding it, lives get ruined and careers wasted. If the measure gets repelled sometime, I will cheer Obama for that. If it doesn’t… I think it might not be a good idea to campaign for the second term saying “but really this time we will, like, totally bring the change, just give me five more years”.

Brilliant brilliant brilliant

Friday, May 29th, 2009

How would you feel if someone subjected YOUR marriage to vote?

Finally!

Wednesday, May 27th, 2009

Finally an explanation HOW exactly gay marriage ruins straight families! (Maine Marriage Alliance through Joe. My. God.)

Legal recognition for openly non-monogamous gay unions would effectively destroy the taboo on adultery. The result is a continual downfall of families and society. Stanley Kurtz, a research fellow at Stanford University explains: ?What we need to understand ? but do not ? is that gay marriage will undermine the structure of taboos that continue to protect heterosexual marriage ? and will do so far more profoundly than either the elimination of sodomy laws, or the general sexual loosening of the past thirty years. Above all, marriage is protected by the ethos of monogamy ? and by the associated taboo against adultery. The real danger of gay marriage is that it will undermine the taboo on adultery, thereby destroying the final bastion protecting marriage: the ethos of monogamy.?

I love the fact we have such a huge influence on heterosexuals. I mean, not only are they shit scared to become gay through “promotion”, but also if they hear too much about an open relationship between two gay people, they immediately feel the need to cheat on their spouses married in front of God AND IT WILL BE GAYERS FAULT. Amazing! (Also note: there exist no open relationships in heterosexual world, and the swingers clubs, hetero orgies and stories about raped women are lies and myths perpetrated by the homosexual mafia.)

Caption This

Wednesday, May 27th, 2009

I think I know what Perez Hilton would draw on this picture ;)

Other People’s Writing: Jaime Filer on eating disorders

Tuesday, May 26th, 2009

I have never had an eating disorder, but I used to have a twisted image of my own body; I saw it very differently to what other people saw. Nowadays when I look at pictures from 6-7 years ago, I can’t imagine that this person was actually me. Not because there was something wrong with me; just because I never realised that, when my friends told me “you are so thin!” they were actually right. I thought I was average. I wasn’t.

This makes me understand how people develop eating disorders; it is the same thing that I felt about myself, just intensified. While I found myself average, many people who see the same picture as I did see in the mirror think of themselves as obese. The pictures of muscular hunks and skeletal thin models in the media don’t exactly help develop self-esteem and a healthy attitude to our own bodies, and this is why it is so important that people like Jaime Filer of bodybuilding.com share their experiences:

It all started way back in 1998, when I was 11, and didn’t think I was good enough for my parents, so I just wanted to disappear. Isn’t that sad? My first diet was when I was 11. Anyway, long-story short, 8 years, 3 hospitalizations, and about 25 pounds later, I was 19 and a skeletal 95 pounds with 4.9% body fat (according to a DEXA scan). [...]

Long-story short again, 2 years after I decided to get better, I got up to 165 pounds, and dieted back down to 138 for a competition in November of 2008. It was thrilling to be able to see my abs, striations and veins again. What a feeling! (Those of you who are competitors know what I’m talking about).

However, with the post-contest period came the post-contest binge. It started with 24 hours; I enjoyed myself with friends and family. 24 hours turned into a week. A week turned into a month. I was still binging by December 20. I was sick to my stomach, and didn’t know how to make the bloat go away. So I walked to the nearest CVS, and bought a pharmaceutical laxative. I won’t go into details, but I’ll just say that I felt better. But not only that, I felt purged physically and emotionally from the binge that had just occurred. I didn’t feel it in my stomach anymore, and I didn’t feel the guilty of going ‘off my diet’ because my stomach was empty again…

Read more at bodybuilding.com.

Dear younger me

Monday, May 25th, 2009

I have touched on the subject already but if The Frisky can post a similar article six weeks after the original, surely I can expand on it…

The advice that DivineCaroline.com give (The Frisky article is a repost) is not completely applicable to me. First, as a 20 year old I wore giant spectacles, had absolutely no self confidence fake or real, and I definitely was neither beautiful nor felt free. But I still wish I knew what I know now, because it would have made my life much much easier when I was 20, 15 or even 27:

1. Depression can be cured. Therapy works. Pills work. And you, young Ray, will completely recover. So move that ass and go to therapy as soon as possible instead of wasting time hoping pills will solve problems. They don’t. They take away the awful feelings that keep you down, but they don’t take away the source of those feelings.

2. Speaking of moving that ass, you will totally love going to the gym. So stop thinking everybody will stare at you (they won’t, they’re busy with their own workouts), fearing people’s comments (there will be none) or feeling that you don’t belong there (nobody looked like Usain Bolt the day they had their first workout). Just go.

3. Alcohol won’t make you spill your secrets. Honestly. And anyway, do you really have any secrets? I thought so. Honey, you’ll have a blog and secretly wish for thousands of people to come over and read your secrets. So don’t wait until you’re 24 before you have your first drink.

4. Speaking of waiting, you will have sex for the first time when you are 21. You will hate it. But trust me, you would hate it much more if you did it earlier than that. And you will eventually have goooooooood sex. Did I say gooooood? I meant amazing, fantastic, borderline illegal sex. You will wait for it a few years. No hurry, really.

5. Lenses are good. When your mom tells you there is nothing wrong with wearing glasses, ask yourself if you approve of her music taste or fashion choices. She loves you, but she’s wrong. Get those lenses and drop the saucers you wear on your face.

6. You don’t look good in blue. I know all family members believe you hate all other colours. Just tell them “I hate blue” instead of “thank you grandma, the 17th blue shirt made me SO HAPPY”.

7. You will never be happy in Warsaw. So don’t delude yourself that things will change, people will accept you, your family will realise their mistakes. Just move away. You will be soooooo much better off once that happens.

8. You can actually be friends with an ex. More, you can truly rediscover the love for your ex in a completely different way — as your BFF. The people who say you can’t be friends with your ex are the same people who say you can lose weight through eating nothing but cabbage for a week.

9. Coincidentally, do NOT eat nothing but cabbage for a week.

10. You will become good looking once you drop the giant glasses, hit the gym and stop wearing blue shirts. And the self confidence will also come. Because, you know, you’re actually fucking amazing. You’ll be strong enough to go through lots of shit, change your life completely, handle things that you fear the most and survive — and become stronger in the process. Remember that every time you doubt yourself.

What ten things would you like to tell your younger self?

Ray’s Chart | Issue 822 | 2009-05-24

Monday, May 25th, 2009

I promise a non-chart entry soon! (Maybe even tonight.)

1 1 2 RANDAJAD
Urban Symphony
2 4 3 RHUBARB & CUSTARD
Poppy and the Jezebels

3 ! 1 LA VOIX
Malena Ernman
4 6 6 I’M NOT ALONE
Calvin Harris
5 13 3 SHADOWS
Au Revoir Simone
6 7 2 ANTHONIO
Annie
7 3 11 LOVE ETC.
Pet Shop Boys
8 2 5 IF U SEEK AMY
Britney Spears
9 8 4 RETURN THE FAVOR
Keri Hilson feat. Timbaland
10 5 6 FM AIR
Zazie
(more…)

Ray’s Chart | Issue 821 | 2009-05-17

Friday, May 22nd, 2009

Also known as “the one I’ve made two days ago and forgot to post”.

1 ! 1 RANDAJAD
Urban Symphony
2 1 4 IF U SEEK AMY
Britney Spears
3 3 10 LOVE ETC.
Pet Shop Boys
4 6 2 RHUBARB & CUSTARD
Poppy and the Jezebels
5 2 5 FM AIR
Zazie
6 4 5 I’M NOT ALONE
Calvin Harris
7 ! 1 ANTHONIO
Annie
8 11 3 RETURN THE FAVOR
Keri Hilson feat. Timbaland
9 5 8 NOT FAIR
Lily Allen
10 7 6 LOVE LETTER TO JAPAN
The Bird and The Bee
(more…)

Ray’s Chart | Issue 820 | 2009-05-10

Tuesday, May 19th, 2009

(Yes I skipped two issues — they have been produced but not published. Last week’s chart will be published tomorrow.)

1   1   3  IF U SEEK AMY
Britney Spears
2   2   4  FM AIR
Zazie
3   3   9  LOVE ETC.
Pet Shop Boys
4   7   4  I’M NOT ALONE
Calvin Harris
5   4   7  NOT FAIR
Lily Allen

6   !   1  RHUBARB & CUSTARD
Poppy and the Jezebels
7   6   5  LOVE LETTER TO JAPAN
The Bird and The Bee
8   5  10  EVERY GOLIATH HAS ITS DAVID
The Boy Least Likely To
9   8  12  DAY’N'NITE (ORIGINAL/CROOKERS MIX)
Kid Cudi
10   !   1  SHADOWS
Au Revoir Simone
(more…)

Gay pride in Moscow, Russia

Saturday, May 16th, 2009

Here are some pretty self-explanatory pictures. (But in case they are not self-explanatory enough… the people getting arrested are the parade members, not the disruptors.)

More here. (Click “Nastepne” for next pic or thumbnails on the bottom.)

Viva la straight Eurovision!

Me, me, me!

Gay, modified,
very well designed...
EXCITEMENT
GALORE!!1!