Archive for September, 2009

Ray’s Chart | Issue 840 | 2009-09-27

Tuesday, September 29th, 2009

 1   2   2  ONLY LOVE CAN BREAK YOUR HEART (RICHARD X BETA VERSION)
            Saint Etienne
 2   4   4  THIS MOMENTARY
            Delphic
 3   1   5  FORWARDS/BACKWARDS
            Annie Lennox feat. DJ Earworm
 4   5   2  UPRISING
            Muse
 5   3   7  ONE MORE CHANCE
            Bloc Party
 6   6  10  BOX N' LOCKS
            Mpho
 7   7   6  CELEBRATION
            Madonna
 8  10   2  MAKE ME
            Janet Jackson
 9   9   4  HOLIDAY
            Dizzee Rascal feat. Chrome and Calvin Harris
10   8   3  WE ARE GOLDEN
            Mika
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What gender are you? Are you sure you know?

Monday, September 21st, 2009

(Picture from Rod 2.0.)

I am fascinated and saddened at the same time by Caster Semenya’s story; as everybody and their dog knows, Caster is a South African runner who competed in the 800m women’s race, won it, then became a centre of gender controversy that revealed her (unofficially) to be intersexed with no uterus or ovaries. She is now reportedly on suicide watch and receiving trauma counselling which is hardly surprising considering that she is 18 years old, her world fell into pieces and her face is plastered all over the media for all the wrong reasons.

The case poses a lot of questions. First, how to give Semenya justice? She has won the race she has partaken in, but as an intersexed person she supposedly shouldn’t compete against women, because that gives her an unfair advantage. But then, should she compete against men? Why? That would result in an unfair disadvantage.

Should her medal be revoked? Semenya herself did not know about the possible gender test results, but it has been now widely published that the president of Athletics South Africa, Leonard Chuene, knew — and decided not to share the test results with anyone, including Semenya. It would seem a major injustice to revoke her trophy… well, it would seem so to everyone but the girl who took the second place. And third. And fourth. (I recall reading somewhere that the jury was considering awarding two golden medals. That is a solution of some sorts, but doesn’t it devalue both runners’ achievements in a certain way?) Isn’t it extreme cruelty to subject the runner to this kind of media scrutiny by letting her compete despite knowing that media will devour her if she wins? Was Chuene hoping for her to take fourth place and remain relatively unknown?

How will Semenya’s life continue? Apart from her career, this is a young woman aged 18 who has been just told (together with entire world) that she has internal testes, no uterus or ovaries. There aren’t exactly crowds of role models she could refer to at this point, nor does her treatment so far strike me as entirely humane and helpful. Will she forever remain a “South African freak” or will she find a way to lead a fulfilling life? Involving, perhaps, being a runner? How does one overcome this kind of stress?

I am also not jealous of the team that has been tasked with determining her gender. How does one REALLY determine someone’s gender? Was Michael Jackson the same gender as Mike Tyson? What testosterone level decides whether one is a man or a woman? How would the sports world treat a transsexual runner that is undergoing hormone treatment but hasn’t had surgery yet? Or one that has?

I have thought of myself as transsexual when I was 12 — before I discovered what gay people were and I went, in my head, very relieved, “ooooh THAT is what I am! How handy to know!” — and it wasn’t easy at all. Was I the same gender as all other boys who seemed to like nothing more than football, getting dirty and shooting guns? I wanted a Barbie, hated football and the only sports I was happy to do were hopscotch and badminton. After growing up in Poland it has taken me two years of therapy to find relative happiness and peace with myself and learn to accept myself for what I am. Is there enough time in the world to provide the same happy ending to Caster Semenya? If I was religious, I would pray for her to find a way to live a happy life. Since I am not, all I can do is hope.

No Country For Old Men

Monday, September 21st, 2009

As a self-respecting gayer I have a complaint.

No, let me rephrase it.

Today I went out to buy something nice and returned empty-handed and feeling really old.

It wasn’t that “today’s yoof” dresses far too fashionably and crazy for my liking. It was the exact opposite. The men’s fashion for autumn 2009 is BORING. (When I say fashion I don’t mean brands like Dolce & Gabbana, I mean brands like Cool Cat, New Yorker, H&M, River Island, Zara, Bershka. Just so we’re clear.)

I was looking for an autumn jacket, something good for +12 degrees while one is biking to work. There are puffy winter jackets. There are ultra-thin jackets (I have three of those). There’s nothing inbetween other than leather, and while I love leather, even I can’t justify buying my sixth leather jacket. Colours range from light gray through gray gray all the way to dark gray. Bershka, with its BRAVE CHOICES provided me with beautiful sweaters in light gray and khaki gray shades of, yes, gray.

I finally found a jacket I really liked. 79 euro. It was too small though, so I asked the 19-year-old (edumacated guess) clerk if he had a bigger size. He gave me a look that said “go home grandpa” and said no, they only had this one in this one size.

I left feeling somewhat sepulchral. I’m 31. Is gray the only choice for a man of such advanced age? And what do the fashionable teens wear? Also gray? I WANT COLOURS DAMMIT! I want craziness! Excitement! I want to be the male Carrie Bradshaw! I want to age ungracefully while wearing exciting stuff!

Sigh. I’ll try second hands next time.

TMI Thursday: My shameful celeb crushes

Thursday, September 17th, 2009

I have recently admitted to one on View From The Shoebox (note to self: update the damn blogroll), so I may as well do a proper tell-all…

I think Billy Ray has gorgeous eyes, warm smile and the soul patch just kills me. (I never saw/heard him talk and Miley Cyrus only exists for me as a character on DListed, so if he’s a child-touching creep, I remain blissfully unaware of that.)

50 Cent: So. Wrong. So. Hot.

Criss Angel: left, portrayed as a completely uninteresting douche. Right, portrayed as a shit hot man. (Yes I do have a thing for guys that look like hobos, as long as they don’t smell like hobos. And a scruffy beard is ALWAYS good with me.)

James Hetfield of Metallica: no, I don’t like Metallica. Yes, I do like scruffy beards. And metallers with beards make me feel warm and fuzzy.

Phew. That was a properly humiliating TMI Thursday… What are your shameful celeb crushes?

More TMI Thursdays…

Roxette: Reproduction

Wednesday, September 16th, 2009

Roxette are one of those bands that people bought 45 million records by, only to turn away a few years later and pretend they never enjoyed them. Well, in a true Ray fashion… I still do, and I am willing to admit it. There you go. I love Roxette.

Not all of their material has aged well, but some of it is mindblowingly good. There is the reckless uber-pop of Dangerous or The Look; the heartbreaking Things Will Never Be The Same or Watercolours In The Rain, either of which would have been hailed to the skies as an universal classic to this day had they been sung by Tori Amos or Alanis Morissette rather than Marie Fredriksson. Some of the most amazing pop songs in the world have been written by Per Gessle; Centre Of The Heart would have been a hit of giant proportions had it been performed by a band not haunted by Joyride. (Which, unsurprisingly, is not to be found on this collection.)

It surprised me when I discovered that my favourite Roxette songs are ballads. Normally I tend to go for uptempo stuff (represented here in abundance, too), but there is just something truly amazing in the thought that Things Will Never Be The Same and Joyride come from the same album. “Babe, I don’t understand… you’ve got the eyes of a child but you hurt like the men always do”, sung by Marie, is a curious juxtapose to Per’s groupiefuck song, Opportunity Nox.

Roxette, "Reproduction"

Roxette, "Reproduction"

Tracklisting of Reproduction (to be released outside my iTunes once I start a record label) follows…
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Purple

Monday, September 14th, 2009

It’s been almost four months now since I started doing yoga regularly, and while I don’t do 10% of what Hannah does, I consider myself, by now, pretty yoggific. Just not today.

It was really difficult today. For some reason I took a different turning than usual, which resulted in me getting lost and having to check the route on my iphone, then rushing and swearing in my head. (I commented to Jason: “it’s a rather unique feeling when your head tells you ‘fuck! fuck! I’m going to be late for my relaxation!’”.) Then when I was already on the mat, trying to focus, my mind kept on racing, as if time was running out to think all important and non-important thoughts. Work! Home! Kitchen cupboards! CDs! DVDs! Redesigning this blog! Backing up my data! Everything was in my head, and made it really difficult to maintain my balance, especially since I was really sore after Sunday’s workout already. (Note to self: go back to working out regularly, like, NOW.)

And then I took control and decided: enough of this shit. Sore muscles can be ignored. And racing thoughts can be stopped. And then I forced myself to relax.

I know it sounds all new age and shit, but I kept on repeating a mantra in my head, loud and slow: I am a vessel for the good. I am a vessel for the light. And I kept on visualising a shining… person. I wouldn’t go as far as “god” or “goddess”. Just a vaguely human shape. And suddenly a thought jumped into my head — one that I couldn’t silence with mantras: “Purple is your colour.”

It’s odd. Not only has my boyfriend repeatedly suggested that I should wear more purple, but also I have sort of noticed purple things around me recently. Pictures. Clothes. Images. Decorative items. And then there it was, in my head, a declaration so self-assured that I had to accept it for a fact.

And then we did the final relaxing and focusing on the breath and stretching bit, and suddenly I was… relaxed. Completely relaxed. Every bit of my body and mind felt relaxed. Gone was the running crowd of thoughts, and soreness was more pleasant than anything else, making me feel very physical and very conscious of my own body. Yes, I thought. Purple is my colour.

And then I slowly biked home, smiling to myself and listening to Enya.

Other People’s Writing (And Images)

Monday, September 14th, 2009

(Pissed Off Apocalypse via Joe. My. God.)

Purchase is unrelated

Monday, September 14th, 2009

A colleague at work told me today that she lost two years’ worth of data this weekend. She was “just about to make a backup this week” when her Mac suddenly died on her. Apple store shook their hands, made sympathetic noises, declared data unrecoverable and installed a new EMPTY hard disk. Recovery company told her they can’t guarantee she’ll get anything back but she has to pay anyway, in advance, before they as much as take a look.

In COMPLETELY unrelated news, having been “just about to buy a backup drive” for the last two months, I finally relented today — a 1 TB drive should reach me on Wednesday.

And I, my Lord…

Wednesday, September 9th, 2009

…may I say nothing?

Samantha Jones in the Eighties. Erm. Just say no. :)

Ray’s Chart | Issue 837 | 2009-09-06

Monday, September 7th, 2009
 1   1   4  ONE MORE CHANCE
            Bloc Party
 2   3   2  FORWARDS/BACKWARDS
            Annie Lennox feat. DJ Earworm
 3   2   7  BOX N' LOCKS
            Mpho
 4   5   6  STUCK ON REPEAT
            Little Boots
 5   6   3  CELEBRATION
            Madonna
 6   8  10  THE GIRL AND THE ROBOT
            Royksopp feat. Robyn



 7   !   1  HOLIDAY
            Dizzee Rascal feat. Chrome and Calvin Harris
 8   7  11  BULLETPROOF
            La Roux
 9   9   5  CRAZY IN LOVE
            Antony & the Johnsons
10  10   6  LOSE YOU
            Peaches
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Me, me, me!

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